“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has already taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw
Have you ever believed that someone fully understood what you said, but it turned out they were far off base? Sometimes it turns out to be funny, but sometimes… it’s not. And emotions flare.
Let’s say we used all the right words, said in all of the right tonalities. Or, so we think at the time. Because where perception is reality, misunderstandings will take place. It’s a human condition. When the mother asks her son, “is your room clean”, we can imagine two very different interpretations.
Is the child wrong? Is the mother wrong? We can agree, neither. Both are perceptions. So how can we get better at this? It’s less about trying to master it, and more, about being understanding of it. Where both mother and son believed to be in the right, there’s no one to blame. Keep cool, recognize the situation for what it truly is, and simply communicate further.